How do I explain an understanding, a change in perception and perspective?

Hello world. The following was written 11/01/2015.

My path crossed with someone recently who asked me a question that has been playing in the back of my mind ever since. They asked me, “How everything I have gone through or will go through is for my benefit? How can losing my handbag of been of benefit?” My answer to the latter was, if you had not misplaced your purse you never would have met my Husband and I. As for the first question…how do I explain an understanding? A change in perception and perspective. A letting go of a belief in something so deeply rooted you allowed yourself to believe that THAT is what defines you. THAT is who and what you are.

Holy Spirit has been drilling into me lately that these judgments I have been holding onto from the cradle are what I have been using to define who and what I am or should I say am not. Growing up children are taught that they should do this or that. Some is based on gender. Some on fears. All are based off of judgments, labels and opinions handed out from one generation to the next for centuries. These same judgments, labels and opinions are also shared with all those we come into contact with creating invisible walls built on the principles of guilt, shame, fear, blame and punishment. These walls keep us bound and in constant servitude to the world of the egoistic mind that acts like the roof of this prison we have built for ourselves.