The fear of rejection.

Hello world. The following was written 1/6/2016.

Contemplations of ACIM Workbook Lesson 6, “I am never upset for the reason I think.”

I am looking at a pattern repeating itself in front of me continuously. It is a pattern of fear using manipulations of guilt and shame. The fear of being direct when asking for assistance. Fear or shame of sharing what your circumstances are. I am getting that this may be a fear of rejection being played out again and again. Why is it that we as a society cannot ask for help without trying to shame or guilt the person being asked into doing it? Why do we tend to insist on a third party as a go between?

In asking these questions I am finding answers are being given to me. The use of the third party is in essence a buffer against the rejection they expect to receive. If they do not ask for it themselves then they do not have to feel that insidious pain of being rejected. What they do not perceive is the dishonesty and disservice they do to themselves and the person being asked. They are not honoring themselves or the other person. In Truth they are projecting out their belief in their own unworthiness of loving consideration.

I am being shown how we are taught as children that if we do not conform and do as someone else wants we will be rejected and punished for not doing so. That we are judged in that moment as being unworthy and learn to enact it on ourselves repeatedly. As we do this we punish ourselves. We create our own pain and suffering compounding it with…