Hello world. The following was written 6/26/2016.
Most folks can wrap their minds around the concept and understanding that when you have children and someone wants to start a relationship with you, that your children are and will be part of that relationship. That if the person seeking this connection will not accept your children then they are not going to accept you either. In those situations most will walk away. They recognize that acceptance of all aspects of themselves and their lives must be accepted or there is no chance for complete unity. It really seems like a no brainier. If you do not accept my children then you do not accept me…
Now consider your relationship with your spouse or life partner. When you join in union with another you are telling the universe you are now committing to become One Being. One Being with one heart and one mind. The single goal to love and support each other unconditionally no matter the circumstances you may go through. To place the relationship at the top of all friendships old and new. Understanding that what effects you also effects the companion you share your life with. That whatever the struggle you are not alone for your chosen family is with you.
You see folks you do get to choose who your “family” will be. Every time someone chooses a life partner they are choosing who their family will be from that moment on. If that person has children you are now that child’s parent. You are choosing to accept and love that child unconditionally as if they are your own. To not treat them any differently then you would your own children.
In this same respect any and all relationships, both old and new, outside of this partnership will need to be re-evaluated. Just as with children, a life partner is your choice and becomes a part of you. They become “your” package deal. It does not matter if it is friends or family, if they cannot accept your choice in life partner then consider walking away from them. You chose that person for you and not them.
When you meet folks in person or over social media recognize that they may not be alone/single. These folks may have life partners or children and maybe even both. That as you reach out to them for friendship you are also asking their partner for that friendship as well. They are a package deal folks. They come together not separate.
Recognize that anyone who wants you as a friend or in a group, yet refuses your partner, does…